Hello Kim, the font used for the surname is Victorian: https://www.myfonts.com/fonts/itc/victorian/
The font used for the name and dates is called Old English Sandblast in Monu-Cad, and Monument Gothic Regular in Flexi-Sign. It is based on hand lettering from the lettering section of the American Monument Association’s 1982 book Symbols: The Universal Language. There are currently no versions available for purchase in the standard font formats, but the MLC has plans to eventually create one.
If you would like help matching the name and dates, feel free to utilize the font matching service: https://www.monumentletteringcenter.com/product/cemetery-inscription-matching-service/